The EFFECTIVE Woman
brings out the best in you as a woman.
You are welcome to the Effective Woman's forum.
The Effective Woman forum is a support group for all Women at all levels i.e singles, engaged, or married. The aim is to help bring out the best in every woman at all level and class. Every woman possesses an inherent virtue that must be tapped into. The virtuous woman as described in proverb 31:10 says it all.So it is very important as a woman to be effective in all ramification of life.
The Effective Woman's forum also provides avenues where we all can learn, teach, contribute and open door for one and one counseling on matters arising such as, Time management,Marriage, Family, Raising Godly children, Relationships, Career, Business, Fashion,Health and other aspects as the need arises.
As a member of this group, no one should ever feel alone and together we will all emerge as strong women that we are.
Please feel free to invite families, friends, colleagues and well wishers into this great and wonderful group.
You are welcome as we celebrate the world of a woman together.
Thank you all.
But here’s the rub. In research, only experimental studies and replication can reveal factors that actually improve relationships. Other designs (e.g., quasi-experimental; longitudinal) can add to the list of potential causal factors, but conclusions drawn should be, at most, tentative. In fact, much of our current relationship research uses correlational designs, which simply look at how different factors co-vary at any one time point. Rarely, then, do we have a window into behaviors, attitudes, or dynamics that we know cause changes in relationships.
This is why one experimental finding, which has stood the test of time, stands out as a clear way to make a real difference in relationships. In other words, researchers have identified a causal mechanism that actually improves relationship well-being.
If you want to improve your relationship, get your partner to join you in doing something new and interesting (Aron, Norman, Aron, McKenna, & Heyman, 2000). This might seem like common sense, but hindsight is 20-20; researchers went into this study not knowing whether data would support this idea, after all, maybe a couple simply spending time together would be enough. Nope. Novelty is key.
And novelty is where many couples fall short. Think about it. How often do you and your partner actually share new, exciting experiences? Habits and routines often take over once a couple settles into a rhythm. We can easily get stuck in a rut of the same old, same old. Research now suggests that mundane routines aren’t going to elevate your partnership.
To make your relationship better, you need to do something new, together.
Shared participation in exciting, novel activities was shown through 3 experimental (and 2 correlational) studies to improve relationship satisfaction, increase communication positivity, and overall relationship quality (Aron et al., 2000). A startling implication in this study is how much a relationship’s well-being is tied to its situation. Whether you’re navigating arousing or boring events in your relationship has an influence on the connection you feel with your partner, and your relationship's overall health.
So keep the chemistry alive by introducing interesting opportunities to engage with your partner in new ways. Explore your city together, try a new restaurant or a new board game, or visit a ballpark. You could go hiking, sign up for a cooking class, tour a museum or national landmark, visit a comedy club or bar you’ve never been to before, or tackle a new home improvement project. Challenge yourself and your partner to actively seek interesting opportunities that you can both share together and you'll have a built-in mechanism that will support a thriving relationship.
Take note: for this to work, you both need to be interested in what you’re doing. If the idea of refurbishing furniture or playing frisbee isn't interesting, try something else instead. Engaging in mundane activities, even if they’re new, won’t have the same effect (Aron et al., 2000).
Reference
Aron, A., Norman, C. C., Aron, E. N., McKenna, C., & Heyman, R. E. (2000). Couples' shared participation in novel and arousing activities and experienced relationship quality. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 78, 273-284.
Baumeister, R. F., & Leary, M. R. (1995). The need to belong: desire for interpersonal attachments as a fundamental human motivation.