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The Effective Woman forum is a support group for all Women at all levels i.e singles, engaged, or married. The aim is to help bring out the best in every woman at all level and class. Every woman possesses an inherent virtue that must be tapped into. The virtuous woman as described in proverb 31:10 says it all.So it is very important as a woman to be effective in all ramification of life.
The Effective Woman's forum also provides avenues where we all can learn, teach, contribute and open door for one and one counseling on matters arising such as, Time management,Marriage, Family, Raising Godly children, Relationships, Career, Business, Fashion,Health and other aspects as the need arises.
As a member of this group, no one should ever feel alone and together we will all emerge as strong women that we are.
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Tuesday 16 May 2017

WHAT A HUSBAND TOLD HIS WIFE THE NIGHT OF THEIR MARRIAGE/ WEDDING


WHAT A HUSBAND TOLD HIS WIFE THE NIGHT OF THEIR MARRIAGE/ WEDDING
My wife, everyone has gone home. The music is quiet, the celebration is over. Our wedding was beautiful but it is now in the past. We have finished the wedding/marriage, it is now time to build our marriage. All that is left now is the two of us… What we will become tomorrow, starts from tonight. Our life is no longer the same.
There was a day you put on one red dress… You looked so beautiful in it. That Day I wanted to just touch you! We were in the Cinema and I was so tempted. I wanted to just take you inside the toilet and kiss you but I couldn’t. Guess what? Now I have you forever, I can do that everyday.
Before I take off your cloth and make love to you… let me tell you few things.
I have nothing to hide from you from this day. My phone, you can use it like your own. You can access my facebook, my twitter and my Instagram
From today, I have become a child. For the past five years of my life, I have been a man. I wake myself up in the morning, sometimes I go to bed hungry, I do things the way I want to. I come home whenever I want to but all that ends today. From today you become my mother, who will scold me when I come home late, a mother who will wake me up at six to go work, a mother who will ensure I don’t sleep hungry. I am glad I have a mother in you.
I hope you will be a good mother? Don’t be too harsh and I promise I won’t be too stubborn. Sometimes I will give you headache but I promise, I will also be the cure of every headache.
When my parents died, I looked after my brothers and sisters. I was like a father to them. So i will not have problem being a father to you.
Hope all men wil be as nice as dis. Let treat women like how it was ordained by God. Women are precious, they are of immeasurable value

Monday 8 May 2017

40 Promises Every Woman Should Make To Her Body

MAY 30, 2014

40 Promises Every Woman Should Make To Her Body


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1. To give it the fuel it needs, not just because society tells her she needs to shovel down greens that have the texture of sadness to stay trendy or thin, but because all those nutrients help her body regenerate and grow from the inside out.
2. But also, to have something delicious because she can — and not berate herself, justify her choices, or even call it “an indulgence” afterward. Dessert, donuts, and that extra-fatty cut of steak are nothing more than delicious. That is all they need to be.
3. To not be afraid of cellulite. Almost everyone has some, and it shouldn’t be feared like the second coming of Freddy Kreuger.
4. To only wear clothes that don’t just flatter her body in any societal definitions of what “flattering” means, but make her feel like her true self is being expressed as she wants to express it.
5. To stop defining her body as a type. Your body is not a piece of fruit, nor is it a geometric shape. It is a body. That is the type of body it is. Define it as the nearly-perfect, self-sustaining creation it is.
6. To ask for what she wants in bed — anything from a condom, to how she wants someone to touch her, to saying “no, actually, not tonight” — and choose to be with the kind of people with whom those desires will be respected.
7. To remember that anyone who sees her body naked is lucky, and she is not to beat herself up mentally, either in that moment or later. I can almost guarantee you that the person who deserves to see your naked form (let alone touch it or get close to it) does not care about that one freckle or those five-or-so pounds that only seem insurmountably obvious to you.
8. To try to navigate the fine line that is being happy with the way she looks, but not feeling guilty if she doesn’t want to be complacent. It seems contradictory, I know, but with so much focus on finding beauty in everyone (which is great) it’s important to not take it as a free pass to be unhealthy. It’s not about a certain size or having certain curves or leading a certain lifestyle, it’s about doing what’s right for your body and taking care of it.
9. To move it in the way she wants to – not because her best friend bullies her into a certain class or workout, or because she feels the need to punish herself for something she ate (she doesn’t) but because it helps clear her mind, wakes her up, helps her let go of stress, or she just likes doing it. (Ideally, it’s all of these things and more.)
10. To dance — which might also be the way she wants to move it – but also because she hears music, and doesn’t care about dancing badly or being off rhythm. That she dances in her underwear in the morning if she wants to, that she dances to the one song nobody else wants to admit they like, that she is the first one on the dance floor, that she dances in the rain and when there’s no music at all, but that’s the only way she can express herself in that one moment.
11. To wear heels if she wants to wear heels. To wear flats if she wants to wear flats. To wear sneakers or sandals or wedges or $10 shoes or $700 shoes if she feels so inclined, and to stop justifying what or why she’s putting such and such a thing on her foot.
12. To jump off cliffs into the ocean water below, to pose for the leaping photos in fields, to cartwheel in the park – even (and maybe even especially) if it’s a bad cartwheel — to skip down the sidewalk if she wants to, no matter who is looking. You deserve to express your joy, and your body is often the best tool with which you can.
13. To use her arms to give as many hugs — good, real, genuine hugs — as she can and wants to.
14. To raise her hand whenever she has a thought she believes wholeheartedly in and wants to express.
15. To keep routine doctor’s appointments, and to find a doctor whom she trusts, but who also respects that she has the right to seek a second opinion just

How to Take Good Care of Yourself (for Girls)

Taking good care of yourself is an important part of growing up. It includes learning how to stay healthy, groom yourself well and keep clean too.

Part1
Caring for Your Health

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    Eat right. Eating right is good to being healthy but it doesn't mean to stop eating the foods you like. Eat preferred non-healthy food in moderation, but eat mostly healthy food. Get your hands on a proper nutrition guide and try to follow the daily guidelines for fruit and veggies.
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    Get enough sleep. Getting at least 8 hours a sleep for someone is vital. Sleep helps restore your body inside and out so don't skimp on it!
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    Stay fit. Be sure to keep fit and healthy. Exercise or/and at least walk for 30 minutes a day. Also, if you stretch at night before you go to sleep, you will feel great (and never tense) when you wake up in the morning.
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    Look after your teeth and gums. Get a new brush every three months and brush your teeth after meals. Floss too, for maximum oral health. If your lips are dry, use chapstick, being careful to choose one with beeswax or shea/coconut butter.
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    Wash your hands. Every time you think you might need to, wash them. It can prevent bad germs, also be sure to avoid touching your face or you will grow pimples.
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    Stay fresh. If you are on your period keep in mind you should change your tampon/pad every couple of hours to avoid leaking and smelling. If you need help remembering, put an alert on your phone
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    Do not smoke. You must already know it's terrible for you: it makes you smell and look awful and it destroys your organs from the inside out. If you don't smoke, never start because it's very hard to quit. You can get medical help if you want to quit or try by yourself, smoking less and less. Stay away from other drugs too (non-prescribed medication, alcohol, excessive caffeine and others). Even if someone tells you that they're not bad for you, they sure can't do any good
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    Drink plenty of water. Keep some water with you at all times and drink to keep healthy. Water is good to every part of you and most people don't drink enough

Part2
Caring for Your Appearance

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    Take a shower or bathe. Use shower gel or soap of any smell to wash yourself (eg. strawberry soap, chocolate soap, orange soap.) Be sure to wash everywhere with your hands or a washcloth or a shower sponge.
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    Wash your hair. Choose a shampoo and conditioner combo that you like and that suits your hair type (get advice from others if you are unsure). When washing your hair, massage it for a couple of minutes, then rinse well so that the soap doesn't get stuck your hair and hardens. Be sure to get in the scalp. If you have dandruff, use a dandruff-fighting shampoo. Avoid heat styling tools or, if you must, put heat protector in your hair.
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    Put body lotion on. Put it everywhere after you bathe, to moisturize. Avoid your face, we'll get to it later
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    Keep your nails clean, trimmed and filed. If you want to, paint them, taking care to do so neatly