Amazing benefits of mango leaves you must know

By Tanushree Singh ,  Onlymyhealth editorial team

May 26, 2016

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• Mango leaf tea is an effective measure against early diabetes.
• Charred and crushed leaves act as a styptic.
• The young leaves are also cooked as a vegetable in certain parts of the world.
• The leaves are used as a treatment for many ailments such as hypertension, dysentery etc.

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Almost all plants used in Hindu religious ceremonies are also of great medicinal value, from Tulsii, to bael patra, to neem all have multiple health benefits and are used in treatment of various diseases. However not many people are aware of the health benefits of mango leaves. Mango leaves are rich in nutrients and the tender leaves contain high levels of phenolic compounds and flavonoids. Ayurveda has described multiple ailments where mango leaves can be used as a treatment.

 

 

Mango leaves can treat diabetes

Tender mango leaves which are still slightly purple/pink in colour are rich in tannins called anthocyanidins. These compounds are the pigments which provide the leaf it’s darker hue and are very effective for treating early diabetes. Dried leaves are crushed into a fine powder and then boiled in water to prepare a tea.

 

Mango leaves can lower hypertension

Mango leaves have hypotensive properties and hence they help lower blood pressure in patients with hypertension. Mango leaf tea can be taken few times a day for upto three weeks to help lower the blood pressure.

 

Treatment for dysentery

In India, mango leaves are traditionally used to help a person recover from dysentery. The leaves are specifically dried in shade, away from sunlight and then crushed into a fine powder. This powder is then taken couple of times a day as a treatment.

 

Rich in nutrients

The tender leaves of mango are high in nutritional value. They are rich in vitamins A, B and C and also in antioxidants. The leaves also contain papin, an enzyme otherwise found in papaya fruit.

 

Treatment for warts

Mature mango leaves are charred and crushed to turn into a paste which can be used to remove warts. This paste can also be used to stop blood flow from wounds.

 

Mango leaves can reduce anxiety

An infusion of mango leaves when sipped slowly is said to create a calming effect. Since mango leaves also have hypotensive properties, they are great to reduce anxiety and help people who are suffering from anxiety attacks.

 

Treatment of kidney and gall stones

Mango leaf tea is also used to break down and remove kidney and gall stones. Dried leaf powder has to be taken with a glass of water as a remedy for stones.

Mango leaves have great benefits and can help you in a number of ways, but it is important to ensure that you are not allergic to any of the compounds present in the tea. Also make sure that the leaves used to prepare your tree do not have traces of latex from mango tree as it can make you sick or even cause burns to skin which comes in its contact.

 

Do NOT Marry Someone Until You Can Honestly Answer These 20 Questions

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Do NOT Marry Someone Until You Can Honestly Answer These 20 Questions

April 4, 2016 by YourTango

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About to say "I do"? Our friends at YourTango share the questions you should be able to answer honestly before you make it to the altar.

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You *must* have these internal conversations before walking down the aisle.

Maybe you've been together a while and are considering taking a big step, or perhaps you just started seeing one another and aren't sure if you should stay the course.

Whatever your situation, a check-in is never a bad thing. Read on for 20 tough questions to ask about your relationships before moving forward.

1. Is for better or worse making me better or worse?

Does your partner encourage you to be your best self, or does he or she get intimidated by any triumphs and feel more secure when you're not putting your best foot forward?

2. Do we really accept one another?

There will always be things you want to change about the people in your life, but no one should be in a situation where they feel they aren't allowed to be authentic and accepted as the unique, special (yet flawed) person they are.

3. Who am I?

How can you know if your partner is a good match if you have no idea who you are?

4. Am I happy to be in this relationship?

The idea of sharing a life together is not to find someone to complete you or make you happy. But let's face it: being unhappy at home can seep into other areas of your life . . . and fast. If you're always fighting or just generally not feeling great about your twosome, it doesn't mean you have to bail out (counseling might be a good option) but marrying someone in the hope that it changes things is a bad, bad idea.

5. Am I feeling trapped?

Do you really want to be in this relationship the majority of the time or do you find yourself wishing for a way out? Do you stay because you've invested time or are you really invested in your mate?

6. What am I doing to hold us back?

Maybe you could be more attentive, more thoughtful, quicker to let things go, or the first to bring up going to counseling. Whatever it is, take this as your sign to step up.

7. Is this relationship balanced?

Do you feel you're both on the same page in terms of compromise, care, support and sacrifice? Or is one of you doing most of the giving while the other just sits with their hand out?

8. Can we have fun together?

Have you ever seen two people sit across from one another in silence at brunch as though they are being forced to walk through their day together? Not. fun.

9. Can we have fun apart?

Co-dependency ain't cute, y'all.

10. Why am I in this relationship?

Is it because you respect, love, trust, and value the person you are with? Or because you're afraid of being alone, worried about finances, or have built a life you're scared to leave?

11. Where is this going?

Living in the "now" is great, but eventually the partnership will need a plan or someone will begin to feel anxious.

12. Do I really trust my partner?

For some, the immediate response to this can be devastating. If you're one of them, it's time to ask why and how you can begin to build or rebuild trust. Without it, there's no chance.

13. Am I with a good person?

Knowing what you know about your partner today, would you vouch for them if they were a friend?

14. Am I attracted to my partner?

Physical attraction is hardly the most important component in a relationship, but forcing yourself to be in a relationship with someone who you're not attracted to — just because it's comfortable or "perfect on paper" isn't fair to anyone. You will feel resentful and they will feel rejected.

15. Am I a parent or a partner?

Taking care of someone you love is a great thing to do, but when you feel like you're raising a boyfriend — or worse, a husband — things get a little complicated. You'll resent his childish ways. Who wants to sleep with their mom?

16. Does my partner have my back?

Do you feel like you're a part of a loyal team who stands up for one another, supports one another, and shows a united front (even when the other is not around)? Or, do you feel like you're constantly being thrown under the bus by your mate?

17. Are we looking in the same direction?

Some couples avoid having the big talks (religion, marriage, babies) because they think that, somehow, these things will just "work themselves out." By the time they realize they won't, they're in a complicated, painful situation that leaves one (or both) feeling a little bit duped.

18. Are we growing together?

Being a human being living on this earth, we all have a right to grow and develop, and create a full life for ourselves. Are you and your partner still indulging in your passions (individual and shared) and growing as individuals?

19. Am I still me?

Being in love with someone should not require changing our identity to fit someone else's idea of who we should be, on any level.

20. What is my gut telling me?

You have intuition for a reason. Listen to yourself.

 

 

 

 

 

Parenting: It Doesn’t Get Better

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I read an old post today that was directed towards new moms in the midst of sleepless nights and incessant diaper changing and sore nipples. In an effort to comfort these struggling moms, author Devon Corneal wrote that “Things will get easier. Things will get better… You just have to get through the first year.”
All the power to Devon; clearly she’s a glass half full kind of girl. My glass, however, is always half empty. And, full of backwash from my disgusting children.
It’s true: You won’t always be walking through life in a complete haze or sterilizing baby bottles for the rest of your life, but in my brief experience, parenting doesn’t get any easier. I look back on those days of schlepping around an infant carrier and complaining about spit-ups as the easiest I’ll ever have it. I’m sorry, new moms. Truly.

 

Your child will eventually sleep through the night. This may be true, but you will never get a full night’s sleep again. I’m constantly awoken by bad dreams and wet beds and dread the day I’ll inevitably stay awake waiting for my teenager to waltz through the door three seconds before curfew. Sleep will never be the same again.
You will not have to do three loads of laundry a day forever. Oh, how I wish this were the case for me. Sure, you won’t need to wash out baby puke and clean up after explosive diarrhea which seeped out of the diaper, but your kid will suddenly stink up his or her clothes. They’ll change 16 times a day. And trip on the grass. And play sports. And eat like a pig. The laundry doesn’t stop, and the clothes get a hell of a lot less cute to fold.
You’ll get rid of the infant seat altogether. How I celebrated that beautiful day… Until I attempted to transfer a sleeping toddler inside without keeping her in the same comfy position.
Your baby will stop staring vacantly at the ceiling and will smile at you. The smiles are indeed glories. But, then come the scowls and the frowns and the pouts. Vacancy is far preferable.
If you’re breastfeeding, you’ll be able to stop. … And your boobs will look like deflated tube socks.
You’ll learn what all the different cries mean. And, each and every one of them will cause you to go a little more insane.

 

The bags under your eyes and the poochy stomach will go away. They will? Clearly I’m doing something wrong.
Slowly but surely, the claustrophobic bubble of parenting that consumes you when your kids are infants will burst. And, once they start making friends of their own, you’ll wish for that bubble back.
So, no, I wouldn’t say that parenting gets easier. It gets different. It gets fun. It gets fulfilling. It gets amazing.
But, easier? In my dreams.

 

 

The 8 Top Secrets of Couples That Don’t Fight (Very Often)

February 3, 2015 by Bustle 6 Comments

 

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They’re simple, but they’re game-changers. 

By SARA ALTSCHULE
There’s no such thing as a fairytale relationship, and perfection isn’t what couples should strive for. However, there is such a thing as a healthy and happy relationship that can look similar to a Disney movie. And if you want that fairytale ending, you and your partner are going to need to work for it.
Relationships don’t come easy. You will have your ups and downs, and both of you will have to work together to get to those ups and learn how to manage those downs. Maybe you’re in a relationship where you two bicker like an old married couple. Another day, another fight about the stupid dirty dishes. Ugh, how hard is it for him to take his towel off the floor?!
You know you’ve seen those couples that seem like they never fight. Even though they annoy the poop out of you, you wonder how do they do it?! What is their secret to success? Well, I’ve got news for you. There isn’t one answer and there’s no mystery behind their non-arguing magic. They simply work at it.
Below are secrets of couples that don’t fight that often.

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They Pick And Choose Their Battles

Healthy and happy couples are healthy and happy because they know when to fight. They don’t walk around constantly armed and ready. They don’t have their guns drawn, until need be. They aren’t the couples arguing over the small little things. They speak up when it’s important. And, their relationship is much better because of this.

They Know The Power Of Their Words

After being in a relationship for a while with a person, you know what will get under their skin. Couples that fight a lot usually say that one thing that they know will set off their partner. Well, couples that don’t fight that often are careful with their words. They aren’t bringing up those feisty comments about his or her mom or saying those backhanded compliments. So, be wise and use your words wisely.

They Don’t Push Buttons

Buttons are only meant to be on shirts, not to be pushed in a relationship. You know when you are pushing your partner’s buttons. When you’re doing this, you’re trying to get a reaction out of your partner. So instead of pushing, you should look inward to see what’s happening within you. Are you upset about something and need to bring up a bigger issue? Are you feeling unsatisfied in the relationship or unfulfilled?

They Learn From Their Fights

Every couple has their fights. The couples that don’t fight often learn from these fights though. They make a point to understand what led to the argument and how it was resolved. They take this new knowledge and use it to better their relationship. You want to learn from your mistakes — not recreate them again and again.

They Are Not Passive Aggressive

Passive aggressiveness need not apply here. In order to maintain a healthy relationship, couples need to talk things out. Acting out passive aggressively is quite the opposite. Being passive aggressive only gets you so far — far away from each other.

They Don’t Sweep Things Under the Rug

There is no sweeping action going on between couples that don’t argue that much. Instead, they don’t even have a rug. They have wood floors that show every spec of dirt. They clean that dirt up right away, instead of hiding it. If you sweep things under the rug, it only makes for an extremely dirty foundation that will be hard to clean up. Put away that sweeper and clean up the mess when it happens.

They Apologize

This isn’t a “Sorry, not sorry” moment.  It’s crucial after a fight occurs that each partner owns up to his or her actions. Sometimes all you need is a good old-fashioned apology. Once the “sorries” occur, both of you can move on without any resentment. One Republic was for sure wrong — it’s never too late to apologize.

Each Partner Feels Fulfilled

When couples are fighting nonstop and the arguments seem to be never-ending, it usually means there is something larger occurring. It could be that either you or your partner (or both) could be feeling unfulfilled. If you are not feeling satisfied within your relationship, it will tend to come out in another way — fighting. Take note of your arguments and look if there is a bigger picture at hand.
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9 Fights You're Not Having With Your Husband But Should

You might come out of these battles even more in love.​

By Cortney Fries

Apr 28, 2016
 

A whopping 69% of marital problems never get solved, according to relationship expert John Gottman, Ph.D. If you're a social butterfly and he's a homebody, that's not likely to change, so there's no sense in bickering about it. But some fights are worth having because they can save your marriage. "Fights are important escape valves for feelings and values," says April Masini, relationship expert and author of Romantic Date Ideas. Just make sure you use these disagreements to deepen your bond, without blowing up or disengaging. Duana Welch, Ph.D., relationship science expert and author of Love Factually, explains, "The deadliest thing is to disconnect without discussing what's really bothering you." Here, the fights you should be working through.

1 Why you're always the one to bring up the issues

 

Gottman found that women bring up the problems in heterosexual relationships 80% of the time. While men can say ladies complain a lot, we're actually doing very important work. "Women are like relationship mechanics," says Welch. "If you don't have someone fine-tuning the engine, it probably won't last." Conflicts are necessary to develop true intimacy. "If you don't talk about it, you don't get closer," say Don and Carrie Cole, Master Certified Gottman Therapists and founders of The Center for Relationship Wellness. How you bring up the issues really matters. "If the first three minutes of a conflict discussion are harsh, it will fail most of the time," says Carrie Cole. In fact, Gottman found that couples who ultimately divorce start discussions with significantly more negativity and criticism than couples who stayed together. So make sure you have a soft start—state the facts and how you feel—and don't attack your partner.

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2 How your relationship will evolve after the baby

 

We all know the transition to parenthood can be a bumpy one. Unfortunately, 67% of couples experience a sudden and steep drop in satisfaction in the first three years of their new baby's life, according to Gottman. What's the secret sauce for the happy couples that remain? They don't constantly battle over how to diaper the baby or dwell on the loss of their previous lives. Content couples embrace their new family unit and work together for the better of all involved. Sure, you're going to have different opinions on how to raise kids, but that doesn't mean your partner is always wrong. Welch says, the rule of thumb for any disagreement should be whether what the other person is doing is dangerous. "If not, express your preference, then back off," she says.

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3 Your spending habits

 

Comments like, "Are you crazy? We can't afford that!" to "You're such a tightwad!" are unproductive ways to duel over your finances. "Money is powerfully symbolic of many things — self worth, values, and a sense of security," say Bob and Judith Wright, relationship experts, authors of The Heart of the Fight, and co-founders of The Wright Foundation. "How you spend your cash can stem from a desire to be appreciated, socially affirmed, or loved." Instead of saying, "All you want to do is spend money!" or "You're no fun — I just want a few nice things!" try to get to the bottom of each other's underlying desires and compromise in ways that honor both, say the Coles. "Proactively put out your judgments and fears," say the Wrights. "Then focus on honing a strategy for the future."

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4 How much cleaning will make you both happy

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Both husbands and wives report more satisfying sex lives in homes where the husband does his share of the housework. So what exactly is the right amount? It differs from couple to couple, but according to 40 years of Gottman research, it comes down to what you think is fair. "If he's doing housework cheerfully and unasked, he's probably golden," says Welch. So spell out what you want him to handle and don't forget to feel the heat together after the kitchen is clean.

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5 The squabble over why you never have fun together anymore

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With packed calendars, it's so easy to get caught up in the daily grind and make your marriage about administrating a household. But, as the famous saying goes, laughter is the shortest distance between two people, so don't forget to fight for being pals and prioritize having good times together. Date nights are great, but not always doable. Greg Smalley, VP of Marriage Ministries at Focus on the Family and author of Fight Your Way to a Better Marriage, recommends taking advantage of daily moments, like leaving for the day or going to bed. "Say something encouraging as he heads out the door ('You're going to rock that meeting!')," says Smalley. "Or express one thing you're thankful for each night ('You cooked an awesome dinner tonight'). As he closes his eyes, that'll be the last thing he hears from you." Silly and sexy texts are other easy ways to infuse a little fun and remind each other that you're friends first.

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6 The ol' should we have sex tonight debate

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Differences in sex drives are hard not to be taken personally. "If he wants sex more than you do, he's going to feel perpetually rejected," says Welch. "And you might feel used for your body." Instead of arguing whether you should have sex tonight, bring up the idea that it's okay to enjoy a little "self love." That way, Welch says, each can scratch their own itch, and you can come together when you're both into it. Masturbation is the safest tool to use in this situation, but make sure you still prioritize sex together, rather than apart.

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7 Why your MIL can't come over unannounced

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While your mother-in-law may think she's helping by, um, inviting herself over, appropriate boundaries need to be established. If your mother-in-law is intrusive and disrespectful, your husband needs to put her in her place, says Welch. He can politely tell her that he appreciates her desire to help, but if there's a side to take, it's going to be with his spouse. "If you think his mother has a higher place in his priorities than you, divorce is likely," says Welch. "He needs to, respectfully but firmly, man up to his mom."

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8 Who should be telling the stepkids to clean their rooms

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You and your husband chose each other, but any kids from previous relationships have to go along for the ride. It takes time to earn trust and love, and yelling over messy rooms probably isn't the way to warm their hearts. Instead, Welch recommends disciplining behind the scenes. When there's trouble with the stepkids, approach your spouse privately and calmly, says Welch. The biological parent should step in and deal with the issue. The non-biological parent can provide support in the background. "It's to everyone's advantage to be kind and gentle to the child who did not choose this marriage," says Welch.

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9 Why you got into a fight in the first place

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You had a big blowout and it wasn't pretty. Instead of trying to sweep it under the rug, address why you had that disagreement. Discuss what went wrong, how each of you felt, and how to prevent such a negative outcome the next time, say the Coles. This isn't about opening the battle back up, but understanding each other and moving forward together. "Never go back into a bad moment," says Carrie Cole. "Instead, try to uncover the importance and meaning of the underlying conflict." Knowing why he's doing what he's doing will help you feel closer. The aftermath of a fight can be one of the most productive ways to fight for your marriage.

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