How to Build A Trust In Marriage

How to Build A Trust In Marriage

Trust is the bedrock in building a strong marriage. However, lack of trust is the first issues to surface in every relationship. Trust in marriage is so vital for any marriage to thrive which is also the most important in making any kind of relationship worthwhile. Without trust healthy marriage or relationship can’t exist. Few people regard marriage as a life commitment while some don’t think so. This article will guide you on how to develop greater trust and unfaithful relationship with your partner.

 Step 1 of 6:

Marry Someone That Loves You:  Marry the person that truly love you, the person that’s willing to spend the rest of his or her life with you not just the love of money or good looks because you might leave to regret it as time goes on. Make sure you choose wise and by doing so you will be free from any kind of regret because he or she will have been the best choice you made at that time.

 Step 2 of 6:

Build On Trust: Trust your life with each other and don’t ever keep secret, keeping secret from your partner can easily ruin your marriage.  Trust each other as much as you want him or her to trust you. When You build your marriage on trust, it will reduce the chance or cases that could prompt divorce now or in the future. When you trust spouse, it would be a lot easier for you to understand yourselves and  forgive each other when he or she is wrong.

 Step 3 of 6:

Talk To Each Other Regularly: Exchange your thought with each other and share your working experience, your likes and dislikes and how much you believe in each other. Whenever you having a flash of doubt about your partner don’t hesitate to ask for an explanation with calmness, this will clear your bad emotion and distrust about each other.

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Show Your Partner You Love Him/Her: You don’t have to go all out before you show your partner you love him or her but shower little affection to each other. This can just be simple as leaving a flower or by giving your partner a surprise package. Give each other a hand and let every moment count whenever you are together.

WHAT A HUSBAND TOLD HIS WIFE THE NIGHT OF THEIR MARRIAGE/ WEDDING

WHAT A HUSBAND TOLD HIS WIFE THE NIGHT OF THEIR MARRIAGE/ WEDDING
My wife, everyone has gone home. The music is quiet, the celebration is over. Our wedding was beautiful but it is now in the past. We have finished the wedding/marriage, it is now time to build our marriage. All that is left now is the two of us… What we will become tomorrow, starts from tonight. Our life is no longer the same.
There was a day you put on one red dress… You looked so beautiful in it. That Day I wanted to just touch you! We were in the Cinema and I was so tempted. I wanted to just take you inside the toilet and kiss you but I couldn’t. Guess what? Now I have you forever, I can do that everyday.
Before I take off your cloth and make love to you… let me tell you few things.
I have nothing to hide from you from this day. My phone, you can use it like your own. You can access my facebook, my twitter and my Instagram
From today, I have become a child. For the past five years of my life, I have been a man. I wake myself up in the morning, sometimes I go to bed hungry, I do things the way I want to. I come home whenever I want to but all that ends today. From today you become my mother, who will scold me when I come home late, a mother who will wake me up at six to go work, a mother who will ensure I don’t sleep hungry. I am glad I have a mother in you.
I hope you will be a good mother? Don’t be too harsh and I promise I won’t be too stubborn. Sometimes I will give you headache but I promise, I will also be the cure of every headache.
When my parents died, I looked after my brothers and sisters. I was like a father to them. So i will not have problem being a father to you.

Hope all men wil be as nice as dis. Let treat women like how it was ordained by God. Women are precious, they are of immeasurable value

MAY 30, 2014

40 Promises Every Woman Should Make To Her Body

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1. To give it the fuel it needs, not just because society tells her she needs to shovel down greens that have the texture of sadness to stay trendy or thin, but because all those nutrients help her body regenerate and grow from the inside out.

2. But also, to have something delicious because she can — and not berate herself, justify her choices, or even call it “an indulgence” afterward. Dessert, donuts, and that extra-fatty cut of steak are nothing more than delicious. That is all they need to be.

3. To not be afraid of cellulite. Almost everyone has some, and it shouldn’t be feared like the second coming of Freddy Kreuger.

4. To only wear clothes that don’t just flatter her body in any societal definitions of what “flattering” means, but make her feel like her true self is being expressed as she wants to express it.

5. To stop defining her body as a type. Your body is not a piece of fruit, nor is it a geometric shape. It is a body. That is the type of body it is. Define it as the nearly-perfect, self-sustaining creation it is.

6. To ask for what she wants in bed — anything from a condom, to how she wants someone to touch her, to saying “no, actually, not tonight” — and choose to be with the kind of people with whom those desires will be respected.

7. To remember that anyone who sees her body naked is lucky, and she is not to beat herself up mentally, either in that moment or later. I can almost guarantee you that the person who deserves to see your naked form (let alone touch it or get close to it) does not care about that one freckle or those five-or-so pounds that only seem insurmountably obvious to you.

8. To try to navigate the fine line that is being happy with the way she looks, but not feeling guilty if she doesn’t want to be complacent. It seems contradictory, I know, but with so much focus on finding beauty in everyone (which is great) it’s important to not take it as a free pass to be unhealthy. It’s not about a certain size or having certain curves or leading a certain lifestyle, it’s about doing what’s right for your body and taking care of it.

9. To move it in the way she wants to – not because her best friend bullies her into a certain class or workout, or because she feels the need to punish herself for something she ate (she doesn’t) but because it helps clear her mind, wakes her up, helps her let go of stress, or she just likes doing it. (Ideally, it’s all of these things and more.)

10. To dance — which might also be the way she wants to move it – but also because she hears music, and doesn’t care about dancing badly or being off rhythm. That she dances in her underwear in the morning if she wants to, that she dances to the one song nobody else wants to admit they like, that she is the first one on the dance floor, that she dances in the rain and when there’s no music at all, but that’s the only way she can express herself in that one moment.

11. To wear heels if she wants to wear heels. To wear flats if she wants to wear flats. To wear sneakers or sandals or wedges or $10 shoes or $700 shoes if she feels so inclined, and to stop justifying what or why she’s putting such and such a thing on her foot.

12. To jump off cliffs into the ocean water below, to pose for the leaping photos in fields, to cartwheel in the park – even (and maybe even especially) if it’s a bad cartwheel — to skip down the sidewalk if she wants to, no matter who is looking. You deserve to express your joy, and your body is often the best tool with which you can.

13. To use her arms to give as many hugs — good, real, genuine hugs — as she can and wants to.

14. To raise her hand whenever she has a thought she believes wholeheartedly in and wants to express.

15. To keep routine doctor’s appointments, and to find a doctor whom she trusts, but who also respects that she has the right to seek a second opinion just

How to Take Good Care of Yourself (for Girls)

Taking good care of yourself is an important part of growing up. It includes learning how to stay healthy, groom yourself well and keep clean too.

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Caring for Your Health

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   Eat right. Eating right is good to being healthy but it doesn't mean to stop eating the foods you like. Eat preferred non-healthy food in moderation, but eat mostly healthy food. Get your hands on a proper nutrition guide and try to follow the daily guidelines for fruit and veggies.
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   Get enough sleep. Getting at least 8 hours a sleep for someone is vital. Sleep helps restore your body inside and out so don't skimp on it!
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   Stay fit. Be sure to keep fit and healthy. Exercise or/and at least walk for 30 minutes a day. Also, if you stretch at night before you go to sleep, you will feel great (and never tense) when you wake up in the morning.
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   Look after your teeth and gums. Get a new brush every three months and brush your teeth after meals. Floss too, for maximum oral health. If your lips are dry, use chapstick, being careful to choose one with beeswax or shea/coconut butter.
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   Wash your hands. Every time you think you might need to, wash them. It can prevent bad germs, also be sure to avoid touching your face or you will grow pimples.
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   Stay fresh. If you are on your period keep in mind you should change your tampon/pad every couple of hours to avoid leaking and smelling. If you need help remembering, put an alert on your phone
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   Do not smoke. You must already know it's terrible for you: it makes you smell and look awful and it destroys your organs from the inside out. If you don't smoke, never start because it's very hard to quit. You can get medical help if you want to quit or try by yourself, smoking less and less. Stay away from other drugs too (non-prescribed medication, alcohol, excessive caffeine and others). Even if someone tells you that they're not bad for you, they sure can't do any good
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   Drink plenty of water. Keep some water with you at all times and drink to keep healthy. Water is good to every part of you and most people don't drink enough

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Caring for Your Appearance

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   Take a shower or bathe. Use shower gel or soap of any smell to wash yourself (eg. strawberry soap, chocolate soap, orange soap.) Be sure to wash everywhere with your hands or a washcloth or a shower sponge.
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   Wash your hair. Choose a shampoo and conditioner combo that you like and that suits your hair type (get advice from others if you are unsure). When washing your hair, massage it for a couple of minutes, then rinse well so that the soap doesn't get stuck your hair and hardens. Be sure to get in the scalp. If you have dandruff, use a dandruff-fighting shampoo. Avoid heat styling tools or, if you must, put heat protector in your hair.
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   Put body lotion on. Put it everywhere after you bathe, to moisturize. Avoid your face, we'll get to it later
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   Keep your nails clean, trimmed and filed. If you want to, paint them, taking care to do so neatly

Why Getting Too Comfortable Is Sabotaging Your Success

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Here are the highlights from my recent interview with Andy Molinsky, a professor of organizational behavior and psychology at Brandeis University and the author of Reach: A New Strategy to Help You Step Outside Your Comfort Zone, Rise to the Challenge, and Build Confidence.

William Arruda: Let's talk about comfort zones. What's the benefit in stepping outside our comfort zones?

Andy Molinsky: I have struggled, just like everybody, in stepping outside my comfort zone. So in Reach I talk about that. I interviewed and observed managers and leaders, [including] doctors (pediatric physicians in particular). I went out with two officers in a squad car for an entire day, in a pretty tough part of a major metropolitan city. I had the bulletproof vest on and everything. [I also interviewed] actors, students, priests, rabbis, teachers, even a goat farmer. I really tried to take a wide lens on this issue to understand people who find ways to stretch outside their comfort zone.

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I found five psychological challenges, core ones that kept occurring. The first is authenticity, the idea that when I'm stepping outside my comfort zone and acting in a way that is new and different for me, I just don't feel like who I normally feel like.

Another one I found is what I call the likability challenge: the worry that people won't like this version of me if I act in this way.

The third one is competence: the worry that we won't be good at this, and that others will see that we're not good at this.

Resentment is the fourth one: feeling resentful and angry, frustrated that you have to do this in the first place. A lot of introverts tell me this. “Why do I have to make small talk and chit chat? Why do I have to network?

The last one is morality. And this doesn't happen in all cases. But morality would be the idea that what I need to do when stepping outside my comfort zone feels wrong. I open the book with a story of a young woman, an entrepreneur, who had to fire her best friend from her startup.

There are a lot of potential pain points here, and often people experience more than one.

Arruda: What are the things that we can do to alleviate some of those psychological barriers?

Molinsky: I found three key things. The first is what I would call conviction, having that deep sense of purpose in the reason that you're doing this. Having that wind at your back.

The second key I found was customization—the extent to which people were able to make minor tweaks or adjustments to the situations they found themselves in, to make it just that little bit easier to do. Some people did it through body language. Other people used props, a lucky charm. Other people can influence the context, so bring a friend to the networking event, put buddies in the audience if you're giving a speech, or before the speech go talk to a few people to feel more comfortable.

The last one is clarity. Fear and anxiety can really take hold of us and make us go to extremes. “I have to give this pubic speech. I'm going to be awful at it. I'll be a complete failure.” When you're stepping outside your comfort zone, try to anchor yourself in the middle ground to try to have a more normalized, reasonable perspective. People who are able to find a way of developing clarity in their situation were more successful.

Arruda: What are some of the benefits and costs of avoiding stepping outside your comfort zone?

Molinsky: The big benefit of avoidance is relief. But you're just delaying the inevitable and also increasing the difficulty of ultimately doing it. So that's the catch with avoidance. It's very seductive, but at the same time it makes it harder the next time around. It’s really critical to have a mindset that focuses on learning as opposed to mere performance.

Try to find something that's at the intersection between potentially doable and high impact—something that's going to really add some value to your life and that's going to ideally give you a quick, small win.